ok.. when i try to place a bet this message pops up and say your email hasnt been activated.... then when i go to my email its not there? what the problem?

You can check your spam folder, but if it's not there you can just resend your activation email. Here are some links that might help:
http://forum.toribash.com/profile.php?do=editpassword
http://forum.toribash.com/register.php?do=requestemail

thx so much