A thread to talk about stuff
I recently talked to this person about how we perceive reality and happiness. It got really deep at one point and triggered something in me, it felt like the only way to describe it as it 'freed my mind.'
We all fear things that hurt us, we are a constant reaction to pains that we have gone through. We are some type of clay that gets molded through our experiences. We discussed how our fears are in place to protect us, but the more fears we have (walls), the more we are actually hiding ourselves from understanding everything. I realised that all my anxieties and sadness are just a reaction to my fears. The thing is though, we don't have to fear anything. Sure some things are dangerous, but just learn about them. If we don't understand something then it's always going to scare us, unless we are open to the knowledge it brings. Think about any little insecurity you have, and then realise what caused it, what lesson you learnt from that thing that hurt you. Learn about it, you become better than it.
Whenever I've been scared to talk publicly it's a fear that someone could make fun of me. This means it's happened in the past, someone has done it to me and I put up a defense for it. What I don't know is that everyone is just as scared as the next person. If someone thinks you're going to be embarrassed about something, it's because they are too. They don't know you, they're reacting out of their own insecurity. This isn't a way to think you're better or smarter than someone else, it's knowledge that makes you stronger than their power to hurt you.
Fluffy knows herself, and that's why she can publicly be a lesbian and dress the way she wants. It's not her issue, it's someone elses if they have some sort of prejudice to that. They're angry at that part of themselves. Sorry if that's too revealing or something. Everyone of you guys that is either softly spoken or withholds the way they feel could be reacting to rejection of that behaviour in the past. Knowing this, I don't blame people who are hateful, they are just reacting to that kind of hate in their lives. Everyone should be transparent in their lives. Letting someone know who you are leaves you open to criticism and if it's the real you that someone criticises, then it can hurt a lot. The walls you build from fear though, I feel like they're ignorant. They just don't know enough of why they're scared. They don't have to be. Just learn about whatever scares you.
Also, in the interest of transparency, I love all you guys. At some rough times this was my place to go to. I hope I can return the favour with some interesting things I've learnt.