Marked, wish there was some way I could convince you to stay. I have some solutions to your problems.
Computer: If its lag, get more RAM on your computer. You can simply buy another RAM device and shove it into the mother board of your computer.
Boyfriends: I'm sure you already know, but not everyone is who they say they are. Not everything is what it seems. There's no way to escape reality but the chances of snagging a dickhead asshole is about 65% in my opinion. There's people who seek pleasure and only pleasure. You might get lucky and find a relationship that lasts for years or even a lifetime. Keep looking, and stay frosty.
Best of luck,
Kngsparten