Originally Posted by
Marco
What's the best way to let a girl know I'm up for sexy time? I've done other shit but I'm nearing 17 and I've never crossed this particular hurdle. Also if your advice doesn't work I will find you.
Fee makes a good point actually, getting drunk often leads to sex. However, its not the ONLY way and I certainly wouldn't say it is the best. I was buzzed a little my first time, and honestly it pales in comparison to my others...that depends on the person obviously, and while there is a time and place for everything, from my experience sober sex is awesome and drunk sex is usually sloppy.
So then, how do you get to that point? Well, sadly it is largely dependent on the girl. If you are trying to bang a super devout Christian (I spent four year on that quest :P) your best hope is marriage, but eh, that's a terrible reason to get married, so you're probably better off finding a good old fashioned heathen girl who won't be concerned whether or not Jesus will cry if you guys bone.
Again, its really hard to say without knowing the girl what sorts of things will work. Some girls love being complimented, others view you overtly adoring them as a sort of weakness. I think it is safe to say that typically women want something emotional as well as sexual, but on the other hand women also get horny and just as often might be out for nothing more than a good time.
So, what do? Well, assuming you have found a girl whom you understand and who understands you as well, it will most likely happen sort of on its own accord. Teenage sex is almost always awkward, especially if it is your first time, so let it happen when it happens. If you rush it, or press your girlfriend too much, you are guaranteed to have a shitty experience...yes, it really can suck balls and you are better off not even doing it if the situation isnt at least partially a good one. All those frat/jock guys who fuck like its a sport, sadly they are missing out because for them sex has become more buisness than pleasure/intimacy, and thats just kinda lame.
Also I would have to disagree with fee on the whole virgin thing. There is this myth that if a girl has sex with more than "x" number of people than she is somehow bad or gross (the common words are whore and slut :P). I would have to whole heartedly disagree with this. One of the coolest girls I have ever met has had sex with more people than I can count on my fingers and toes. Is this is a girl I would date? Absolutely, were it not for the fact that she has serious commitment issues when it comes to sex (clearly), other than that though she is an amazing person, more accepting and caring than 90% of the people I meet in daily life. Would I have casual fun with her, OF COURSE! Sure, she has been around, but so what? Just because she enjoys it and is a little bit...well...more open than other girls doesn't mean it would somehow be less enjoyable, in fact since she has experience she would probably be a more enjoyable partner than someone who has never done it before. Obviously you ALWAYS have to worry about STDs, but thats what condoms are for, they might make things a little less enjoyable, but only a little, and it certainly beats getting herpes or teh hiv.
But yeah, Marco, you seem like a good dude. It will happen when it happens, and if you want to speed it up, try either talking about it with your girlfriend, or just keep going until she tells you to stop (which you
ALWAYS listen to), you might be surprised :P